Tips for Communication During PMDD
I’m sure you all know the feeling: when the PMDD hits and it feels like your body is retracting in on itself, throwing up walls so the outside world can’t penetrate the prison of your mind. The act of reaching out beyond those walls, communicating with others, asking for support… may feel like a battle itself, but it can make such a difference.
Here are 7 tips from PMDD Warriors like you on communication during PMDD:
PMDD has encouraged, if not required, me to open up to people much faster and deeper than ever before. I have found it useful to share my experience with people I trust at a time when I’m not ‘in it;’ even though it’s easier to forget about my PMDD when I’m feeling good. Telling people what it’s like and what I need during an episode BEFORE it occurs has saved me during times when I am in the thick of it and don’t know how to verbalize what I’m feeling or what I need.Elliot, 20
Be honest with those close to you. You will be more likely to receive compassion and empathy if they truly know what is going on.
Sending texts to really close friends who know about PMDD really helps.Ana, 35
Always explain PMDD to your romantic partner and make sure they are understanding and open to the information you are telling them. If they are not, then things will probably not go well between you two.Alycia, 28
Use the nomenclature that helps you be the best advocate for yourself. It’s important that what you say accurately defines how you feel so you can request the appropriate self-care for yourself and from others when needed.Jennifer, 35
Track your cycle and make sure the people you have to be around each day are aware of your condition (not just your loved ones and best friends – this may also be people you work with or work for). Let them know when you will not be your ‘normal’ self. I have found this hugely helpful and I’m slowly getting the support I need, even at work! I try not to schedule meetings during my worst time or make important decisions. At home, I tell my kids when I’m ‘Grummy’ and not Mummy. Everyone gives me more space and alone time, and when I overreact to any situation (this is inevitable for me) I apologize. They’re more understanding.Sarah, 38
The first two days of my cycle are full of rage and anger. I make sure my close circle knows I’m not in a good place and to avoid me however possible. I apologize and ask for space and understanding. It’s not perfect but it has helped me to feel like less of a monster.Al, 35